Everybody’s changing and I don’t feel the same…

… is a line from a song by Keane that resonated with me when I was 17. I heard it playing on the radio recently and remembered how difficult it had been for me to watch my childhood friends attend college and then later on, university, when I could not.

At 17, I was unable to continue studying as I was suffering from the effects of the abuse that was still ongoing at that point in my life. Although I didn’t understand that at the time. I blamed myself. I believed that I wasn’t good enough and that there was something inherently wrong with me which was the reason why I was unable to progress in the same way that my friends were able to.

I didn’t understand that I was contending not only with the effects of PTSD, but also with the challenge of living independently at a young age, with no emotional support and financially reliant upon the benefit I’d been encouraged to apply for by my leaving care worker.

Now, nearly 19 years later, I am weeks away from earning a first class degree in counselling that will allow me to offer professional support to others who’ve experienced adversity and abuse. This week also marked the 5 year anniversary of the publication of trafficked girl.

I feel incredibly thankful to have reached this point in my life and I hope this post brings hope to anyone reading who also resonates with Keane’s song, everybody’s changing.

You are not alone.

-Zoe Patterson

-Fighting Back

Sexual Abuse & Sexual Violence Awareness Week 2023


Did you know that if you have been raped or have suffered any kind of sexual assault or abuse, at any point in your life, you can submit an anonymous report to the police without them knowing any of your personal details via Blue Sky Centre.

This UK service can support those who decide they do not wish to make a formal report to the police but would like to provide anonymous information to them.

Anonymous reporting helps the police build up a picture about what is happening in their area without them knowing anything about you.

If you decide to report anonymously, Blue Sky Centre will write an anonymous account of what happened and submit it to the police. They can also direct you to local services in your area that offer the same service.

If at any point you decide you would like to formally report the abuse to the police, Blue Sky Centre can arrange this for you. There is also the option of having an informal chat with the police before formally reporting should you so wish.

Whatever your decision, Blue Sky Centre will respect your wishes and support you through every step of the reporting process, be that anonymously or formally.

To find out more please visit: https://blueskycentre.org


You are not alone.

It was not your fault.

Help and support is out there.


-Zoe Patterson – Fighting Back

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