One year on

Today marks one year since my story of fighting back was published.

Sharing my story is just one of the ways I have fought back and I have done so not only for myself, but for anyone else out there who may need a reminder that they are not alone, there is always hope, and that much beauty can be found from pain.

I am incredibly thankful to all of the readers who have taken the time to read my story, and to all those who have reached out to let me know how much my story has helped them.

I had no idea of just how many people I would reach when my story was first published and from so many different parts of the world too!

I hope that my story will continue to help and inspire others for many years to come.

With much love and gratitude,


Author: zoepattersonfightingback

Practice what you love with love, working IN the moment and not FOR a moment. The world does not stop for defeat or for victory and neither should you. I have known victory and I am no stranger to defeat. Despite my personal challenges I still wake each day with the intention to practice what I love and this has served me well. I am an England boxing coach and qualified personal trainer, working hard to help others practice what they love.

4 thoughts on “One year on”

  1. Zoe. You are without a doubt the most awe inspiring and phenomenal woman I have heard of. You have the most beautiful soul and feel privileged to have read your book. Your book should be held up as a beacon of hope to those who don’t know where to turn and who are frightened of sticking their head above the parapet. I think you should write a series of books or even a SM account where you teach your techniques and methods of coping. I would definitely buy or subscribe.
    I do hope you continue to not speak to your mother. She sounds extremely toxic and poisonous (not to mention psychotic). I wondered if your brothers have children and does she behave the way your grandmother did?

    Personally I had my own issues growing up. (Though not to be compared in anyway to your traumas) My dad died when I was 9, I had an abusive stepfather who would not only hurt my mum but would also beat me and my brothers. Also my mum became an abusive alcoholic towards us and left the care of my baby sister to me from age 10 onwards. I was sexually abused by a neighbour who was a pillar of the community and it only stopped because his dog savaged him. I felt relieved but also robbed of justice and answers.
    No thought was given to my education and I left school without a single qualification. I have always struggled with my weight and have worked very hard in minimum wage jobs. My self esteem is non existent. But you have inspired me. You really have. I’ve just turned 40 and have never given myself permission to be happy. I am married and have 3 kids (I love them all so much) but I’ve always existed for the convenience of others. If someone who had suffered in the ways you had managed to get to a place of self acceptance then I must at least try. In the morning I’m making a GP appointment and demanding some counselling. Thank you once again. You truly are amazing


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    1. Hi Leanne.

      Thank you for sharing your story with me. I could identify with so much of what you shared. Let this be the first step towards finding the peace and happiness within yourself that you deserve.

      I completely understand your thoughts on permission. I still have days where I struggle with that. I use the affirmation, I am worthy, whenever I feel undeserving of good things/feelings.

      You can heal your life by Louise Hay is a wonderful book about self love and how to do it. The power of daily affirmations is something that changed my life. I would definitely recommend the book.

      I want you to know that you are not alone.

      You do deserve to be happy.

      You need permission from no one but yourself but if it helps… I give you permission to be happy Leanne, and so will every other woman who reads this and understands our struggles.

      Thank you for your suggestions re SM. In the not too distant future I am hoping to offer an online course offering some practical tips on improving your life (things that I have done that worked for me). It may not be for everyone but if it helps just one woman then it will be worth it. Watch this space!

      I wish you all the best in your healing journey. Sending you lots of love, light and positive energy.



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